The daily chronicle of my family as we embark on our quest to relocate from New York to Cairo... the impending journey to get there and the daily lives of myself, my husband and our four children... and other random thoughts while living in Cairo!

Looking to make contact with other Muslimahs who are like myself with small children living or will be living in a foreign country.

I invite you to share the experience with us as we try to make this happen!

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

How time flies....

My best girlfriend who recently moved to Saudi is currently visiting Cairo and we were chatting today about how fast time flies... on this same day, one year ago, we boarded Egypt Air from New York to Cairo- her and her youngest daughter and me and my two little terrors... with intentions on having a blast! Just a getaway, to take care of somethings for herself and me, to confirm my intentions (again) as to whether I really wanted to make that move. We had a trip planned to Hurgada when we were finished with shopping, shopping and did I mention shopping? lol

But things didn't exactly work out that way in the end- we had to cut our trip short after about 9 days as she had a very serious illness in her family. And on the night before we left, I had to have a frap from their Costa Coffee house in Al Rehab... it was raining and instead of me walking which seemed like a 1/4 of a mile (wasn't) I decided to cross a very wet wooden bridge which extended across a very elaborate water fall display... so guess what happened next? I went up the steep bridge okay but with having on high heeled boots, on the steep decline down, my feet began to slip... so I started to run-walk to avoid slipping... and all of a sudden, I couldn't stop! So, I had to think quick as I knew I was going to fall but definitely didn't want to fall on my stomach since I was 2 months pregnant and just a little paranoid (I had 2 miscarriages before that pregnancy) so I decided to brace my feet when I came to the end of the bridge so I ended up in a "arched cat stance"- when that happened, I heard three VERY loud snaps.... I couldn't walk! I managed to get up, limp to the coffee house (still had to get that drink... hey, I was pregnant!) and as I was standing there, I could feel my right ankle start to balloon up so big my boot felt tight around my ankle. Trying not to panic, I wasn't sure if it was broken as the pain was unbearable but I held it in like a trooper (helps to have a high pain tolerance...) and made it back to my hired car. The driver asked me what happened, and I told him I fell and I'm not sure if it's broken... he immediately drove me to my friend's flat, took my kids home and raced me to the hospital there in Rehab. Not long after arriving, they summoned the doctor from I think home, took three x-rays of my right ankle and we awaited the results... totally fractured in three places! The doctor made a cast, told me to buy a shoe, bear the pain since I was expecting and follow up with my doc when I got back home- I was ordered to wear it for 6 weeks and then have it evaluated further...

We left Cairo the next morning in route home... my husband was a wreck when we arrived for some reason he thought I said my right hand so he was a bit relieved to see it was my ankle... and that everyone in the end, was okay. On the flight home, I was miserable and feeling a little queasy which I NEVER do when I'm pregnant- my husband ALWAYS have my pregnancy symptoms eg: back pain, nausea, vomiting, food cravings, etc... talk about funny! But I couldn't wait to get home, in my house and elevate my kids were trying to rub it for me to make me feel better while I suffered thru that immense pain- I kept trying to sleep it off.... didn't work.

So we laughed today at exactly how time flies and reminisced about our lovely trip... I can't wait to see her late next month / early February, InshaAllah- may Allah reward her for being a very good sister (Ameen). I can't wait to have henna parties and sleep-overs! (LOL)

Raf, I love ya!

Friday, December 26, 2008

Just a little more closer now.....

I've been going a little nuts lately with trying to figure out what should be my next move with the BIG move we're untaking... I kinda feel like I'm in limbo- so much to do but don't where to start while other things can't begin because other things need to happen first... Ugh.

But, finally a step in the right direction, my hubby's friend has a shipping company he uses for his business and they, Alhumdulillah, have an excellent rate with shipping goods overseas so InshaAllah, this is the company I'll send my things with- that was a HUGE relief! Now, I spoke to my contact in Cairo earlier today and he's finalizing who he will deal with on that end to get my things from Alexandria to Cairo.... he's going to give me the details tomorrow, InshaAllah!

So.... here we are.... getting closer.... bags are being packed slowly.... finding out what's left to be bought (probiotics, vitamins, kid medicine, etc.)... last minute things to sell.... things to give away as charity.... buy my tickets.... get together with my girls before I leave and they leave for their destinations (Saudi, Australia, Florida and such)... make my rounds for my goodbyes to my family and friends.... take my kids to their last Disney show in New York.... call those I won't see to tell them I'll contact them when I arrive in Cairo via phone or after I get internet service (which I hope will be ASAP- I must have a computer at my immediate disposal!).... and the list goes on.

I really don't expect to have any entries about anything exciting until we actually get there- I'm sure that's when the REAL fun is going to start (yeah right) ;)

What do you think?

I posted more than a few new pictures of sisters I found along the entire length of the side bar... what you think? Some are actual photos, some are more of a fashionable photograph but I thought all were beautiful- and represent a small cross section of who we are.

Too many pics, not enough variation... too much variation? Feedback, please!

Thursday, December 25, 2008

Desktop Backgrounds

I paid a visit to the blog of our fellow sister Mona on this very still, quiet Christmas day (it's like the world is standing still here) and she posted her favorite desktop backgrounds... so as a tag, I'm posting my favs here:

The ever beautiful, awe-inspiring Taj Mahal... InshaAllah on my list to visit after I complete Hajj

Some women in the marketplace

The peaceful escape of Maldives

A few shots from Anne Geddes various collections.....

A beautiful black sand beach- ahh, it's calling me.....

What are some of your favorite backgrounds?

Monday, December 22, 2008

Care for a little sisterly advice?

Let's see... I don't even know where to begin- Hmm, we'll start here with: pretentiousness, self-righteousness, arrogance, humiliation and superficial behavior have NO PLACE IN ISLAM. Over the course of the last few days, I've seen sisters belittle each other- and I found it to be quite disturbing. One can TRY to relate to the plight of another, but as stated before by me in other blogs, unless you've actually been the receiving end of that EXACT situation, regardless of what it might be, you will be able to SYMPATHIZE or some may EMPATHIZE but you CAN NOT understand the full magnitude unless you've been there yourself.

I think we should all know by now that it's okay to agree to disagree with certain issues that people might hold near and dear to their hearts- we all will never see eye to eye on certain issues, and that's okay- it's to listen, try to understand and offer a possible solution but not one that seems to belittle the situation or argument... that just leads to more division and resentment- and with each resentment, there is usually some form of retaliation... and that is a normal human reaction. To be human is to err, none of us are perfect, but to willingly cut your sister down to make yourself feel better IS NOT ACCEPTABLE. If you've offended your sister with words or your actions, you should seek her forgiveness- it's not about being the bigger or better person in the situation but as Muslimahs who supposedly follow the doctrines of Islam, we should not let things separate us- I kid you not, I can almost feel the bitterness and resentment out there... and that's UNISLAMIC.

Also, let's not generalize people's situations- it's just another form of belittlement. Yesterday was yesterday and today is a fresh slate: don't reference yesterday's infested sore on your blog with post that have nothing to do with the previous agrument(s)- don't beat a dead horse... let the ignorance lay where it is- if someone didn't see it, good because that display of contempt is nothing to be proud of.

Your sister has the right to defend herself! If points or inferences are made about an idea or statement that was made, a sister should be able to defend her statement- maybe she IS wrong or lack understanding in your plight but all the same she has the right to be heard- do not delete the comments. Someone out there might be able to explain to her where she is wrong or missed the point of your argument- you can't have that exchange if their words are deleted. By all means, if some donkey comes along from the outside looking in, spewing total ignorance, then delete them without hesitation. Do it in the spirit of fairness- people aren't always going to agree but someone out there with a similar view may become enlightened when some points of the argument are explained- nor should you "pick and choose" whose comments you'd like to publish if someone's view doesn't strike your fancy....

Maybe some will read this and say who asked her... or I don't care about her outlook on the situation- but we as Muslimahs SHOULD care about each other regardless of what race or creed we hail from. We are all responsible for our actions and words and on the Day of Judgement, we all will surely answer for our deeds...and if you could care less about what I said above, I will say this to you- FEAR ALLAH... full stop.

I love all of you, my sisters, for the pleasure of Allah regardless whether you are white, black, purple, green, magenta, grey, yellow, blue, ugly, stunningly beautiful, short, fat, tall, skinny, scarred or flawless!

Now, can we ladies climb back into the sandbox and play nice? As always, all comments are welcomed! ;)

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Reminiscing about my marriage weekend...

My beautiful sister, Hijabee in DC, had a post concerning family and it talked about a certain Hindi movie- I used to watch them ALL the time and my first intro to Bollywood films was thru my husband (wasn't the hubby then) and being as sweet as he is, MashaAllah, he translated the entire movie, Devdas.

When I thought of Devdas, I thought about the weekend we got married and how I ran around looking for a beautiful lehenga that I knew would please my hubby... now of course, I'm not Desi but I knew it would bring a smile to his face to see me dressed in the traditional garment of his culture... and he had no idea!

So, if any of you know anything about New York, the best place to shop for traditional bridal wear is in a place (area) called Jackson Heights in Queens- you can always go there and find brides and their sisters and Moms checking out lehenga cholis, salwar kameez and saris... all heavily beaded and quite exquisite! Now, me being a big girl and tall, the quest wasn't an easy one as most bridal shops carry no sleeve, cap sleeves, mid section exposed, back out lehengas- and not in ample plus sizes! I didn't want to go the salwar kameez way- felt funny with wearing pants to the masjid... so I searched and searched until I found the perfect one!

I ended up with a VERY beautiful soft powder blue one nicely beaded with long sleeves- it was meant to be! I thought of my husband's face when he would see me- and it made the mad hunt worth it!

We were married on a Friday after prayers and there was a nice gathering at the nikkah- then we went home to a few friends and family to have a nice lunch. We had established before we married we wouldn't get crazy with the expenses (it's not like we were 18 anyway... lol) so we could put alot of money to the side for something else. My walimah was the next day- and it was fabulous, MashaAllah! I left home hours before him to go to the mall in Long Island to have my makeup done at M.A.C. and I took my dupatta so they could see what I was wearing to use complimentary colors on my chocolate brown skin... and the end result? Simply stunning if I say so myself, MashaAllah... it all turned out better than expected!

When I arrived at the masjid, everything was in place in the sister's section and the guests was arriving in a steady stream and next thing you know, the place was packed! Everyone had a wonderful time and my family and friends (who are all Non-Muslims) had a great time as well... you should've seen everyone's face when they saw me! It was nice to play "dress up" since we can't do such things everyday... but we sisters have worn ours lehengas to our all-girl Eid get-togethers- all of us modelling our finest Desi wear... I'm gonna miss that *sigh*

Later that day when my hubby wanted to speak to me, I met him by a door and when I opened it he said, "Wow..... MashaAllah!"- and it made the running around in the freezing cold worth every second! I'm obviously not Pakistani but I was his Pakistani bride that day- only a chocolate version! I thank Allah (SWT) for my hubby... he was my friend, introduced me to Islam and became my other half... what more can a girl ask for?

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Randoms thoughts on living life

Oh, I'm in a reflective mode right now so I thought I'd share some quotes from random authors on living life:

Life is like a taxi. The meter just keeps a-ticking whether you are getting somewhere or just standing still.

Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds us down or polishes us up depends on us.

We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give.

Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.

In the game of life it's a good idea to have a few early losses, which relieves you of the pressure of trying to maintain an undefeated season.

In the book of life every page has two sides: we human beings fill the upper side with our plans, hopes and wishes, but providence writes on the other side, and what it ordains is seldom our goal.

Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.

All of the animals except for man know that the principle business of life is to enjoy it.

Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever...

Friday, December 19, 2008

Ay! Tagged yet again!

Okay, I tagged my sista-gurl, Halal Honey and she tagged me back! So, here are the rules again:

- Use the 1st letter of your name to answer each of the following questions
- They have to be real place, names, things, nothing made up!
- Try to use different answers if the person who tagged you had the same 1st initial.
- You can't use your name for the boy/girl name question.

What is your name: Anisa
A 4 letter word: arch
A boys Name: Amir
A girls Name: Anjali
A color: amethyst
Something you wear: ascot
A food: avacado
Something found in the bathroom: air vent
A place: Aruba
A Reason for being late: accident
Something you shout: Ay!

Ahh... the awesome letter A

Salaam 'Alaikum sisters... I was tagged my beautiful sister, Hijabee in DC, so here are the rules to this tag:

- Use the 1st letter of your name to answer each of the following questions
- They have to be real place, names, things, nothing made up!
- Try to use different answers if the person who tagged you had the same 1st initial.
- You can't use your name for the boy/girl name question.

What is your name: Anisa
A 4 letter word: ache
A boys Name: Abdullah (my Big Papi...)
A girls Name: Asiya
A color: azure blue
Something you wear: anklets (many of them!)
A food: apricot
Something found in the bathroom: aspirin
A place: Argentina
A Reason for being late: aggravation
Something you shout: Aha!

I will tag these ladies:
Desert Veil
Halal Honey
Inspired Muslimah

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Why are women so.....

Actually, you could end that sentence with just about anything but I can't take women who are catty and just down right phoney.... they annoy me to no end- maybe because I'm older or maybe it's not having much tolerance for ignorance, who knows, but I don't have the stomach for most women. It's a sad thing to say but why are women this way? And it starts from so very young.... when I see young girls behave in this manner, I give them "the look" like you shouldn't act like you are right now and if I personally know them, I ask them, "What's going here? None of that garbage!" Yes, there are times when people (women) do things and we "share" the information with each other but you gotta know when to turn that stuff off- that's backbiting and usually a dose of slander thrown in for good measure.

Or those who want to be with you, associate with you, form an alliance with you to benefit themselves... pleeeze. Just how old are we anyway? Most act like children or young school girls- as that old song goes, "act your age, not your shoe size". Alot of people use to think I was "uppity" because when they start this same mess, I look at them like they have about 18 heads or walk away but I don't have time for gossip- my life is too busy for it and I don't need any extra sins, thank you. I gave that crap up when I was about 16... lol

Anyhoo, just observing a few things... it wasn't really worth talking about but some women can take you there.... and for those who don't have a plethora of knowledge, here's the dictionary definition of phoniness:


Main Entry: pho·ny

Variant(s): also pho·ney \ˈfō-nē\
Function: adjective
Inflected Form(s): pho·ni·er; pho·ni·est
: not genuine or real: as a (1): intended to deceive or mislead (2): intended to defraud :
counterfeit b: arousing suspicion : probably dishonest c: having no basis in fact : fictitious d: false , sham e: making a false show: as (1): hypocritical (2): specious
— pho·ni·ly
\ˈfō-ni-lē\ adverb
— pho·ni·ness
\ˈfō-nē-nəs\ noun

Just wanted to put that out there... now I can get on with my day

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

5 things......

I love these... I was tagged by my sis, Umm Travis... so here's my story:

5 Things I was doing 10 years ago:
- I was at the VERY tender age of 28 (tender- yeah right) just started working at my last job (laid off last year) and taking a much needed break from college (pursuing too many things)
- Hanging with my girlfriends... doing ALOT of shopping ( you know us girls!)
- Vacationing every chance I got (one of my favorite past times.... *sigh*)
- Moving into a new apartment
- Making plans to move to the West Indies after finishing my degree (which one, wasn't sure)

5 Things On My To-Do List:
- Packing... and more packing!
- Buy some stuff I want to take to Cairo
- Make more brown sugar scrubs
- Possibly drive my kids upstate New York this weekend by the Canadian border to stay at my fellow Muslimah's house (so her kids and mine can go bonkers!)
- Call some friends

5 Snacks I Like:
- Haagen Dazs and Breyers brand ice cream (Yummy!)
- Granola bars
- Cannolis (Italian pastry)
- Pillsbury dough cookies (the ones you make yourself)
- Salted pistachios

5 things I would do if I was a millionaire...
- Buy a HUGE home (perfect- no riba!) and have at least 1/2 acre backyard to build my kids the ultimate playground
- Fly my nearest and dearest family & friends from all over the world to Cairo so I can host the ultimate BBQ (I'm famous for those)
- Finally open the clinic I was thinking about doing years ago for the Native American women & children for ob-gyn & pediatric care (the idea was to give back to the people which they are a huge part of my heritage) at a low cost or free of charge
- Give sadaqah to all the Muslimahs around the world with children and no husband (do you know how many of them are out there?)
- Put all the kids I personally know thru 4 years of college

5 places I have lived ( for various lengths of time):
- Long Island, New York (where I grew up)
- Queens, New York
- Inshallah... Cairo, Egypt!

5 Jobs I have had:
- Sales clerk (1st job at 16.... awwwww)
- Medical collector
- Head customer service rep/area asst supervisor in a optical lab
- Customer service for an aircraft repair company (somebody has to fix the planes we fly in...)
- Senior rep and salesperson for a packaging distribution company (last job)

5 people I will tag:

Monday, December 15, 2008

Where I would be right now...

I was just chatting with a girlfriend on-line and we were talking about where we would be right now if we weren't married with children... we laughed about the many places we have each visited in our lives so I thought I'd share where I feel I would be right now and what I'd be doing... kicking back, relaxing on a nice black sand beach... just the sounds of the ocean and my Khalil Gibran book- some of his many passages listed here:

Coming generations will learn equality from poverty, and love from woes.

Generosity is not giving me that which I need more than you do, but it is giving me that which you need more than I do.

I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.

Knowledge of the self is the mother of all knowledge. So it is incumbent on me to know my self, to know it completely, to know its minutiae, its characteristics, its subtleties, and its very atom.

The just is close to the people's heart, but the merciful is close to the heart of God.

The person you consider ignorant and insignificant is the one who came from God, that he might learn bliss from grief and knowledge from gloom.

To understand the heart and mind of a person, look not at what he has already achieved, but at what he aspires to.

As usual... wow.... now take time to reflect........... he's definitely my favorite!

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Rampant racism in Saudi?

I was talking to a few sisters over the last couple of days and we discussed making Hajj and Ummrah and one sister told me of her unfortunate experience last year when she made Hajj with her husband... she needed to use a restroom and the went to the nearest place, a hotel, to gain relief. Upon them leaving the establishment, one Saudi there began to verbally assault them... told them they couldn't afford to stay in such a hotel and what gives them the right to think they could use the restroom? She said he was screaming and looking at them with total disgust so her husband asked the guy where was his Islam? And all she did was use the restroom... the guy started screaming that "they" are not allowed to use the bathroom and "they" aren't even allowed in such places and he was going to get them in trouble and make them pay a hefty fine for entering the hotel... in Saudi?

Talked to another sister who left today to visit her in-laws in Pakistan and as we were discussing cultures, we arrived on the subject of Saudis and her feelings about how the Saudis treat people... other Muslims, who hail from other nations, like animals. I heard stories of visas being denied because Saudis feel that certain groups are MUCH lower than them and they're not wanted there...more "deserving" people for Hajj come from America, the UK and the sorts. Reminds me of the caste system that STILL exist in India...

Now, I heard how they treat workers from Pakistan, Bangladesh, India and other nations in that region like animals... even worse than animals- most are treated like slaves. Then I went on to hear how some of them work and don't get paid for it... another gave me a personal experience of being sponsored by someone in the country only to be extorted for money when they needed to letter or note to travel within the city... didn't even know you needed that until my friend moved there in September. If you don't go with a job from an actual employer there and you decide to inhabit the place via sponsorship thru someone else, you need that person's permission to go anywhere WITH a note or letter stating they GAVE YOU PERMISSION to do so... if not, and you're caught, you're in trouble and so are they (who sponsored you). But this part isn't soooo bad until people start robbing their own brothers and sisters- where's the Islam in that?

The sister who had the bathroom incident told me this is how things are in Makkah but not in other places like Jeddah. I remember she used to be so gong-ho on her husband completing his degree and getting a job there so they could leave... now she has a real bitter taste in her mouth about the whole thing. Once your skin isn't light, they have an issue with you- I heard even lighter skinned Saudis won't marry darker skinned ones... WTH?

I know there is alot of Arab pride and most of this stems from that but where exactly is your Islam? Your brothers and sisters from other countries are all beggars (this term is used often) and less than dirt in your eyes since they're not Arab? I know racism exist everywhere but to my understanding there the situation is not even concealed... they call you out whenever they feel like it... and they feel it's okay- and right! Subhanallah......

It made me start to think, have any of you gone to Hajj or Ummrah and was made to feel "less than" because of where you're from or your skin tone? I know these things don't happen to white expats there- it seems they're accepted, no problem... and they're non-Muslims.

Have they (and those Muslims from other countries who suffer from this same ignorant disease of the mind) ever heard of these?:
That ye may recognise each other
(Not that ye may despise each other).
Verily, the noblest of you
In the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you."
(Holy Quran 49:13)

"And mankind is naught but a single nation."
(Holy Quran 2:213)

"And among His Signs is the creation of the heavens
And the earth, and the variations in your languages and your colours;
Verily in that are signs for those who know."
(Holy Quran 30:22)

"All men (includes women) are equal in Islam, the Arab has no superiority over the non-Arab, nor does the non-Arab have superiority over the Arab, save in the fear of God."
Prophet Muhammed (PBUH)

Any feedback on your personal experiences?

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Are you covered?

While browsing through Sister Najea's beautiful collection from Hijabi Couture, I found that cute little quote to post... enough said!

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Allahu Akbar!

Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah

Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah

Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah

Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah...

For those who read this and don't understand what that might mean, here's the translation:
Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... wa lil-lahil-hamd
Allah is Most Great... Allah is Most Great... to Him belongs all Praise

Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... Allahu Akbar... la ilaha illallah
Allah is Most Great... Allah is Most Great... Allah is Most Great... there is no God but Allah

To all my sisters and brothers in Islam- Eid Mubarak!

Friday, December 5, 2008


I was catching up on some reading and alot of them had to do with transitions- good, bad and the unknown... change can be a very overwhelming thing and depending on your strength and outlook towards it, those factors can determine how the outcome will be... so, do you have the constant feeling that your life is miserable? Do you wish you could somehow redo everything? In a sense, you can. I read this excellent article below:

If your life is miserable, you think almost everything about it is bad... you hate your job, you're dissatisfied with the way you look, you're tired of your friends, you're even sick of where you live. In short, life stinks... or does it?

I'm not saying that you can instantly get a happy, problem-free life just by changing your thinking, but you can start to improve things if you'll accept one simple truth- I AM NOT POWERLESS!

As odd as it sounds, sometimes we're comfortable being miserable. I don't mean that we enjoy our misery, but it may be easier to stay in a familiar, bad situation than it is to change. Change takes courage... change takes faith. Most of all, change means venturing into the unknown and that can be even scarier than where you are now, even if your life is miserable where you are now.

When your life is miserable, you begin to approach your individual "misery threshold." This is very similar to your pain threshold. Maybe you have a very high misery threshold and you can go for years and years in a rotten situation... or maybe your misery threshold is much lower and you're jumping in and out of things all the time, hoping life will get better. The ideal is probably somewhere in between. Pain, even spiritual or emotional pain, is a sign that something is wrong. However, life is never perfect and never will be, so all of us have some difficulties we have to learn to live with.

Change is a very scary thing- I have bouts of doubt as I pack my bags to make my move, Inshallah, but then I remind myself- change can be good! Sometimes the most important change is being able to look at things in a new way. I know that when you stop beating yourself up, your life can begin to improve in a dramatic way.

Constructive change requires thought and planning, and we're capable of that. You can do more, be better, and be happier than you've been in the past but the first step is believing, with Allah (SWT) help, that it's possible!

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Moral Support

It has been said that a health benefit of friendship (or what I like to refer to as sisterhood) is a longer, healthier life... another great benefit of having "real sisterhood" is that your attitude and ability to deal with stress and problems are greatly increased.

Surprisingly enough, even spending time with your significant other can not provide the same healthy benefits as friendship. Good sisters offer a different kind of support than our husbands, siblings, parents or children can. Caring Muslimahs can provide a different level of understanding and communication... and this can positively affect your health, wellness and attitude coupled with a strong feeling of connectedness or place of belonging.

A good friend/sister can help you relax, take a deep breath and remember what really matters... and why. The connection you feel when you’re with your friends can boost your feelings of hope, faith and belief that things will eventually be okay. Friends provide comfort and companionship... laughter and honesty! A strong support network can make you feel motivated and energized... as it isn't just about our emotions and/or feelings.

So when you see your sister having a rough time or she may seem depressed or if you just feel things might not be so right in her life, ask her how she's doing and if she needs to talk about anything- and actually listen to what she has to say... you never know... just by asking a question you could lift her spirits, lighten her load and help put her on track to recovery.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Strange creatures, aren't we?

Cleaning up and looking around, I came across this sad but true statement:

Funny how $10 looks so big when we take it to masjid and so small when we take it to the store...

Funny how big an hour serving God looks and how small 60 minutes are when spent playing golf, fishing or playing soccer...

Funny how laborious it is to read a juzz in the Quran and how easy it is to read 2-300 pages of a best selling novel...

Funny how we believe what newspapers say but question what the Quran says...

Funny how we can't think of anything to say when we pray but don't have any difficulty thinking of things to talk about to a friend...

Funny how we need 2-3 weeks to fit an Islamic event into our schedule, but can adjust it for a social event at the last moment...

Funny isn't it? Nope, not in the least but... is this you?