Looking to make contact with other Muslimahs who are like myself with small children living or will be living in a foreign country.
I invite you to share the experience with us as we try to make this happen!
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Salaam Alaikum, people and hello to everyone else out there in the world... I'm passing through as the Man (the hubby) as given me an assignment to do which requires some time being spent on Blogger... so what's a better time to hit you all up with a blurb about my life!
So..... I'm currently searching for a new school for the brood.... totally NOT satisfied with the establishment they've been in for the last 3 years... things change and the best teachers there have since moved on so I need to find a better school, a decent school where my kids can get what they need both secular and Islamically (which no easy task here). A zillion schools and a whole bunch of issues in about 99% of them!!!! It's a daunting task but it must be done.... hopefully I can be be successful in finding "the one".......
What else,...... let's see- of course, the babies aren't babies anymore, the Naughty Princess, Big Papi, Little Papi and Papito are 7,5,3 and 2 respectively- wasting no time!!! And it's that time again to plan their new yearly ritual of a themed party after the school year ends- their reward for their hard work and studying all year... so this year's theme is princess and pirates.... let the costume search begin! It's the least I can do for the poor things.... they have no real time to play and hang like how we used to growing up so I try to make up for it by doing something with/for them every month... they most definitely deserve it!!!! It should be (I hope) a better party this year as I intend to invite Big Papi's entire KG class, Little Papi's Baby class group and the Naughty Princess is "selective" (slightly tilted upwards nose) with her friends so whomever she decides is attending shall be there..... lots of kids, running and screaming so I chose a nice huge park with a big kiddie playground for them to go crazy in... can't wait myself... a nice fish pond, play area along with camel and horse riding... hopefully it can bring a smile to their faces, Insha'Allah!
Life has been very busy but good, Alhamdulillah, so I can't complain about anything.... I look forward to end of this academic year and I hope to pursue a few things of my own now that the brood is getting big.... I need personal fulfillment now in other areas to be more pleased with myself- I look forward to the challenge and making it happen!
Hope to have another "mental break" sometime soon so I can check back in again.... but if I don't get a chance, everyone be safe and happy and do random acts of kindness towards your fellow brothers/sisters!!!!
Saturday, June 4, 2011
So many things have happened in six months, Alhamdulillah, mostly all good so I don't where to exactly begin... there hasn't been anything "major" to report about... just keeping up the brood with the eldest two being in school- handling their studies and trying to keep them on track with all the have to do... it's amazing just how much work the wee ones get these days... my daughter will enter 2nd grade in the fall, and I must tell you, the work load from last year with ALL the textbooks was astounding!!!! But my Naughty Princess worked very diligently so she did well, thanks and praises be to Allah! And add to all that schoolwork, she and her brother have a Qur'an/Arabic teacher who comes to our home 3-4 times per week for 2 hours each session.... and she gives her a bunch of homework too each class!!! My daughter's school year ritual: off the bus, wash her hands, have a snack, within that hour span- in with tutor for 2 hours, dinner and homework simultaneously since the work load is unbelievable... so she can sleep by 8! Poor thing.... so my reward for her hard work? A nice little Princess party!!! I invited a bunch of little girls so they could all play "dress up" and eat and run around... complete with princess crowns and coloring books.... along with face painting and my favorite obsession, henna! They all had a blast and it appears all the Mommies had a good time as well.... :)
So, now, I'm prepping my third child for baby class for the fall... my big dilemma right now? Finding a good/safe/educationally sound preschool to enroll him in for the summer... I want to get him ready and used to the idea of not being with me or seeing me all day.... I don't want him to have a panic attack or start crying when the school year rolls around so I think this is a good time for my "shadow" to gain some more independence.... but all the best preschools have no space!!! So, what is a Mom to do when she's looking to make it happen for her kid? Call and play the "art of negotiation".... that's what all the smart Mommies try to do anyways... ha! What can I tell ya... you can take the girl outta New York.... ;)
There are many ideas/past passions lingering in my mind that I need to tie up, do something with but I don't know where to begin exactly... some has to do with writing (book and article writing) and the other stuff is centered around my brood.... my biggest problem is that living in Cairo, it's hard to find or get to the resources you need in order to be successful... some things we would find to be trivial back home is a BIG to-do here... and it sucks. Either people don't know, it doesn't exist here or it's insanely mega expensive to obtain.... I guess the mentality is, if you're smart enough to know about it or seek it out, you got the mula to pay for it..... :S
Now... will I promise like I have in the past to post on Fridays... nah, I can't make the commitment especially with summer being here... I'll be busy scooting the bigger kids to practices, Insha'Allah (gotta make them well-rounded) and back home in the afternoons for a jump start on next year's Arabic and keep up with their Qur'an lessons.... while I find and hopefully be "scooting" the third spawn back and forth to his summer session... somewhere.... which means I'll just have my Mini-me son at home, attached like glue to my lap...... :)
I hope these lines find all of you in the very best of everything.... and I will try to pop back in sooner than six months from now!!! Sending you all my warmest wishes...... be well!!!
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Salaam Alaikum everyone in the blog world.... you know, I have been talking about an issue for a while as I've been watching how we, as Muslim women, embrace each other with companionship/friendship... and our relationships amongst ourselves have deteriorated into nothing!
I've met more than a few women after moving here to Cairo and me being me, embraced everyone for "face value" but after a while, you "weed out" the not-so good ones and keep the rest... meaning I see if the person is one I would want to keep company with long enough to consider her a friend: is she upstanding? A backbiter? A slanderer? A liar? A drama queen? These type of people are counter-productive... and very bad for YOUR Islam. You ARE the company you keep as if you don't start out that way eventually you WILL become part of that which they do... seriously, are you looking for extra sins??? I know I have more than enough to repent for, as we all do but you need to protect yourself and your deen from the fitnah that lies within these treacherous borders....
An honorable sister posted a good message in one of the Muslimah forums on Facebook about backbiting/slander which I think, would be beneficial for ALL to read...
Salaamu alaikum everyone,
Some of the fitnah on here needs to be stopped dead in it's tracks. I am one of those people who feels like everything is what you make of it. I don't think Facebook is evil or that it is a fitnah because the same people who will be on here causing all kinds of trouble will be on the phone doing it if they didn't have internet, or will be at the masjid saying all kinds of things etc... it is all about what you make it but there needs to be an understanding attained from all of this. There is NEVER a reason to knowingly sin. I don't care if someone is on your page, in their house or even in YOUR house sinning, what you do will go right along with them, or even do something that is haraam back, you are just as wrong. Your being angry is not an excuse. Honestly, there are only two excuses for it, either you are not at the age of understanding (puberty) or you are majnoon (insane). If you have a mental disease or ailment, this isn't the same as being insane. Being insane means you don't understand and lack the intellect to control yourself and your actions. It's not just having some diagnosis, no matter what it is, and thinking this is now an excuse to hurt others and oppress them with no accountability
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The Pen has been lifted from three: from the insane person who has no control over his reason until he recovers, from the sleeper until he wakes up, and from the child until he reaches puberty. ”Narrated by Abu Dawood (4399); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
When the woman asks about her husband the scholar replied in the case of your husband’s sickness, either he is aware of what he is doing and saying, or he is not aware. If he is aware, then he is accountable for what he says and does, and it is not permissible for him to accuse you or to fail to raise his children; he must do what Allah has enjoined upon him of acts of worship and obedience, and not do that which Allah has forbidden. In this case you must carry out all marital duties and it is not permissible for you to neglect them. If he is not aware of what he is saying and doing as the result of this sickness, then he is no longer accountable for what he says and does.
As you can see from the above statements, you can't have some and not the other... Either you understand and know what you are doing is wrong or you don't. If you do, then you do and using a mental ailment as an excuse (unless it is valid) is not a reason to mistreat and oppress others. The way I feel personally is that if enough of us put in some mental symptoms that we experience into Google, I am sure we would have some kind of diagnosis at the end of the day, myself included. I am pretty sure I would come out with anger management issues, and maybe even ADD... At times, I am sure I was even depressed... but it was and still is NO reason for me to do wrong against myself, or others, and most importantly, my lord. As he is an ever all watcher over us and knows what we do.
Prophet Muhammad said :"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "God and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of God said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim)
"I asked the Messenger of God : Who is the best Muslim? The Messenger of God replied, "He is the one from whom Muslims are safe from the evil of his tongue and hands." (Muslim)
"When man wakes up in the morning each day, all parts of the body warn the tongue saying, ‘Fear God as regards us for we are at your mercy; if you are upright, we will be upright and if you are crooked, we become crooked.’" (At-Tirmidhee)
Backbiting isn't only something that someone does about one person, it could even be about a group of people. And before you go listening to what someone says about someone else, just remember that it may not be something that is true that is being stated. The person could be out right lying or lying by omission. I have seen it so much where people tell only what others do to them, not what they do to other people. Then everyone is looking at the other person as if they have wronged the other individual when really, it was none of your business to begin with and it didn't help you to find out and would not have hurt you to never know.
It was narrated by Abu Hurairah that the Messenger (Salallahu Alayhi Wa Salaam) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent." Sahih Bukhari.
Allah said what was translated in the Qur'an, "Oppression is worse than murder." (Surah Baqarah: Ayah 192)
Even if you are not the one saying something about anyone else, if you are listening and lending an ear to it, then you are just as guilty and will carry the same sin. We all have the ability to cut it off at the head and end it often time before it even begins.
Here is a suggestion... the next time someone comes and tells you what someone did to them, ask them what they did to make this person do this. If they come acting innocent, just remember that if the other person has any sense about themselves, then you are NOT getting the whole story. You get what you give. If you are not going to get both sides to the story, then don't lend an ear to either side as this is what is fair.I personally feel that was a very powerful message.... what happened to being your sister's keeper? Most women are so shallow these days, they don't (or won't) form bonds with women for STUPID reasons and then they tend to backbite based on their jealousy... I know what I'm talking about... it's happened to me. These women (for lack of a better term) will dislike you and backbite/slander you because your husband is better looking than theirs(!)... or your children are more beautiful than theirs(!)... or you have some wealth or more means that Allah has blessed you with... you dress better than them... you live in a nicer home than them... your husband is from another nationality than you (yes, people... petty women are even jealous of this)... your shoes are nicer than theirs... your group of friends is bigger than theirs... ?????????????????????????? Is this what we as Muslimahs have become? Why not say, "Masha'Allah" for that sister for all these things that were not begotten by her own hands but was giving to her by the Most-Merciful Allah?
Instead these SAME sisters who backbite and slander will brag and tell you they study Qur'an and Arabic at some of the best centers here and there along with Fiqh and 'Aqeedah but yet they don't practice or apply ANYTHING they've learned.... so, your knowledge is for what exactly? They come home from these same centers of learning and pick up the phone and slander/backbite her sister about something that happened at school... something she heard from another sister... maybe something she saw another sister doing wrong (oh yeah, can't pass up THAT opportunity!)... or PRYING into people's business to get information about other sisters which is none of your concern to begin with- what is this all about? Shaytan has corrupted the minds of more than a few of us... and it's starting to wear away at the very fabric which keeps us tied together as humans, as women, as MUSLIMAHS in Islam.
And let's not forget our children... if your children play often enough with the children of these women, you will more than likely see the same from them... the apple tends not to fall too far from the tree. If they see or hear Mommy doing it, then it's normal and okay. And it's funny, kids will "give you up"- have you ever witnessed this scenario: when you know someone is a backbiter and she loves to talk about people and YOU ARE the target of the moment, you will notice their kids will look at you strange and/or their behavior towards you will be different... seen it... it's happened to me- and I laugh! But they heard Mommy and ALL she had to say about you... and kids are innocent so what do you expect? They are creatures of their environment... so be mindful who your kids are playing with as well- all the little boys who curse or swear or beat on other kids... and all the "too sassy" little girls whose Mothers put colored lip gloss and/or lipstick and nail polish on them when they just stopped wearing diapers... these are the kind of girls you want your daughters playing with? And when she starts to like "Amina's look" and ask you for some, what do you say? I must tell you, I'm very selective with whom my bigger children play with... both of them, Masha'Allah, are good kids and I want to keep them that way as long as possible so I watch the action/behavior of those kids I let them be around. If I see or hear things that I feel should not the behavior of that child, my kids can not keep their company, full stop. My kids circle of friends may not be big but that's okay as they don't need to play with every kid because all the other sisters let their kids play together- if you see something questionable, I would suggest removing your kids from that environment as well... heed the warning!
I blogged about this sisterhood issue over the last few years so if you have time and care to, read my entries from these periods:
We all must try to remember our duty(ies) to our fellow sister... and do you really want to eat your sister's flesh? Be mindful of the company you keep for yourself and your children... may Allah protect us all from the whispers of the dejected one (Insha'Allah, Ameen!)
A sweet little Muslimah posted something recently I totally liked... and I think it reflects my attitude as well... if my circle of friends here in Cairo perishes, I feel like this: "I'm in my own little world... that's okay, they know me here."
I'm ever thankful to Allah for all the friends and sisters who know and understand the essence and heart of TRUE sisterhood back home... I do miss them so... may Allah always keep them that way!!!
Will you be your sister's keeper... or will you eat her flesh??? Think about it..... I love you all for the pleasure of Allah!
Monday, November 22, 2010
Salaam Alaikum, my people and hello to everyone else in the blog world.... what's new, World???
Haven't been very good at keeping my promise with popping in on each and every Friday but life just doesn't permit me to do so.... with four little ones, life here can be hectic.... there's always something or somebody waiting or needing my attention!
I wanted to blog a few days ago only to find out just before that my internet service was out... my home phone service was out for over a week so they managed to fix that problem but in the process, they did something to my internet service.. so they called me on my house phone and basically said "okay, we fixed your phone so you can talk now but we jacked your internet service... call the company to fix it.... you're on your own".... thanks, phone people.
Anyhoo, a very lovely sister I know just returned from a fab trip to Turkey and she brought back some goodies I requested.... can't WAIT to see it!!! I'm in need of a vacation myself but my biggest babies are in school so no time to get away. I soooo need a change of scenery but I have no way of escaping..... sigh
I plan to potty train Little Papi starting next month... he's definitely ready now and it's time since I'll be looking to get him "prepped" for baby class in his brother and sister's school come September... so I'm thinking about putting him in a nursery for half a day starting the beginning of the new year so he can be relaxed and not cry when it's time to start the "real" school next fall... he's kinda clingy and I don't want him to cry his head off when it comes time for us to part.... doing it the right way can save your child from experiencing any psychological issues.... I don't want to traumatize my baby! Masha'Allah, for all those who know him, he's a REAL show-stopper and outgoing kid (half of Cairo already know who he is and his name- he attracts ALOT of people) but he needs to spend some time away from me now in order to gain some independence.... aww, then I'll only have one baby left..... my beloved Papito (Masha'Allah).....:(
Looking forward to getting my mind back on track... I haven't been feeling like my overly confidant self for the past few months... and it kinda bothered me. I've always known exactly what I wanted and how I wanted it but for some reason, I've kind of been "side tracked" meaning my mind has been in too many places and I felt strange not knowing what I should do next.... for all those who know me, that's not me!!! But I chalk it all up as having my plate running over for the last 2 years... yeah, soon it will be 2 years since I parted from my friends and family, my land, my home, my language (LOL) and trekked to the other side of the world with three small kids ages then 4, 2 and 6 months while being 5 months pregnant... all alone to start a new life!!! Many called me crazy... most thought I was losing my mind.... alot thought I wouldn't go through with it especially after I found out I was pregnant again BUT I did it!!! I'm not a weak person and when I set my mind to something, it's pretty much a sealed deal so I proceeded as planned.... but anyhow, mentally, I purchased a "bigger" plate so Anisa can be (and feel like) Anisa again.... I have NO TIME to be uncertain.... to doubt myself and what I'm doing... gotta keep moving forward!!!
I ask that you keep me and my family in your prayers.... as we try to live a pleasing life to Allah and do what's best for our family... some time to best thing isn't always the easiest thing so I do what I must for the sake of those I cherish and love.... and hope and pray, in the end, it will prove to have been worth all the trouble...
I'm just a woman (... a Superwoman but still only mortal... LOL) who was thrown into the lion's den and trying to come out victorious AND unscratched... ya think I can do it???
Do you like my post pic? Anyhoo, it was a mental note to myself... anybody coming to Cairo soon, please holla at me... I sooo need some new MAC lip glass.... ;)
Be good, take care and do a random act of kindness to gain some rewards... and remember to try to love those who don't love you!!!
Monday, October 4, 2010
Had a moment to sit as my two eldest spawns (lol) are in school while the other two make a mess with all the toys.....
Just wanted to check in and see how everyone was doing out there in the world... anything new anyone care to share? Life has been busy here but with small things like getting the rugrats ready for the new school year and spending some quality time with my other half.... we had a great summer!!!
Oh yes, if anyone of you come here to live for any amount of time, DO NOT buy any house hold items from a company called Olympic... you can have a warranty with them and they will make you call time after time, send a technician who will basically come look at said item and tell you everything is good. I have an 11 kg washer/dryer and ever since I had this stupid thing, it's been one problem after the next. It's come down to me screaming into the phone at customer service and demanding supervisors..... and it doesn't matter- here they don't pride themselves in their work or ethics so it's like screaming at a wall. If this were to happen in America, for sure this problem would have been solved MONTHS ago as people don't want their company to have a bad rep so they take care of the problem... sooooo not the case here- they could care less. It's sickening, tiresome and disgusting. My hubby had the delightful experience of being able to witness the daily antics here with the companies, cleaners and other workers.... and his reaction?????? Pfft..... LOL..... told him. Initially, he thought I was "overacting" with my re-enactments via telephone but he saw first hand their lack of knowledge, crappy attitudes, and the sluggish temperament of the lot..... I can't even be angry anymore- it's become like one HUGE joke.... yeah, HA HA..... Dude, where's the flippin' hidden camera?????
Besides, the daily melodrama here, life has been quiet which I guess is good. My online store is there but it's not the fulfillment I was looking for.... I'm kinda looking for something else to do with my time. I want to make something/open something but here it's not easy to make money like back home.... here people want stuff, but they expect to get it for nothing- can't make anything here worth anything because there won't be a profitable return so I'm kinda stuck with ideas. I thought about just forgetting the whole idea of starting something but I want to be productive AND earn some cash.... hey, I got four kids, Masha'Allah!!!! LOL
And oh yesss, my brother is coming to pay us a visit!!!! I'm excited and he's thrilled as he misses his niece and nephews...... it's gonna be nice, Insha'Allah, to have him here. It'll be his first time in Egypt so he'll be armed with his high-powered camera and BIG lens for all the pics I'm sure he's gonna take. As a hobby, he's a photographer and drawing artist so I'm sure this trip will give him lots of fresh material to work on upon his return home! Can't wait to see what he comes up with.
Anyhoo, it's time for me to take a seat on the sofa for cartoons and continue the "munch fest" with Little Papi and Papito before the Naughty Princess and Big Papi's bus arrive.... then it's all business with homework and dinner!!!!
Everybody be safe, take care.... and be happy! Thanks for reading..... :)
P.S. I LOVE my post pic.... American Muslimahs, REPRESENT!!!!!!!
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
Just popping by to mention a few little things.... My hubby decided to list some clothing items on Ebay so all you who enjoy wholesale and have a home business, sell at vending fairs, at the masjid, etc., I think we might have something for you! If you check below this post, you will see the listing for the auction.
I truly miss all my sistas back home.... and for all of you reading this, please know that I love you all and can't wait to see you!!!! InshaAllah, I intend to be home next year for Ramadan... and we'll be in the new masjid, MashaAllah!!! I'm tooooo excited..... :)
On another note, since it's been the holiday, Life's Mosaic has been put on hold til after Eid, InshaAllah- then at that point, I'll send invites for those whom I think may be interested in the antics of my brood...... lol
So til next time, take care, be safe and if we don't link up again.... Eid Mubarak!!!! May Allah (SWT) have mercy on us all and accept our prayers and duas...... <3>
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Been fiddling around with everything and I'm NOWHERE near finished with adding items to the store but I decided to open with what I had the chance to list.... it has been a long process! Between taking pics of everything, the home, the kids, the hubby, and now the Holy month of Ramadan has begun, I usually start my "night job" of creating item numbers and descriptions and uploading pics after the kids sleep up until Fajr... InshaAllah, the initial set up of anything can be painstaking and tedious in the beginning- such is life!
Soooooooo, if anyone is interested in giving my little shop a look-see, please feel free to do so... AND as an extra added bonus, if you click that you "LIKE" me, you'll receive a discount off your purchase.....
And I would like to hear what you think of the items listed.... honest feedback to give me a better idea what people may want... I bought all those goodies based on the area and people (and what appealed to me) but a store location and an online store could turn out to be two different things... so let me know.
Don't hesitate to buy something for yourself, your sisters, your sisters in Islam, your wife, husband, brother, kids, blah blah blah.... you get the idea...... :)
I also added a little do-hickey Facebook thingy on the side of this blog so you can click to "like" from this site or you can click on one of the pics to take you to the FB fan page photos..... which is great as you'll be able to see the close-up detail on all the clothing items.
Please refer my page to your friends and family, InshaAllah.... please remember me and make dua for me and my family... and my store, InshaAllah!
I said I was looking for something to do.... this JUST might be it!
Friday, August 13, 2010
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
I just wanted to say to everyone have a very joyous, happy and healthy Ramadan..... spend it doing the best of deeds, feeding the poor, helping someone, showing more love to one another, reading Quran and other books of beneficial knowledge, and praying!!!
I doubt if I'll be back with any updates of any sort just maybe to post some beautiful pics of this remarkable month.... :)
From me and my family to you and yours, may Allah (SWT) accept all our prayers and duas.... please remember to make dua for me and mine!!!
Much love from the Empress, the Pakistani Prince, the Naughty Princess, Big Papi, Little Papi & Papito!
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Salaam Alaikum everyone... and greetings to everyone else out there in blog land. I finally had the chance to start my little private blog project... and it's almost complete. The only hold up is for some reason I can't load some pics of my brood onto the blog so as soon as I figure that out, it will be up and running..... and I mulled over more than a few names and came up with something I feel perfectly describes us: Life's Mosaic: Tales from the Noisy Kingdom.... LOL!
Oh yes, since I'm paranoid about "putting my kids out there", I did state that the blog will be private.... so those who know me well (and good enough) will receive an invite to view.... and I hope I don't offend anyone but I feel the need to protect my kids' identities....
And I mentioned few posts back about me trying to open an Islamic clothing store and the owner turned out to be a big headache so I let the 2 small stores go.... I will be posting on Facebook within the next few days the items for sale. It includes abayas, usdells (overhead or on-the-head garment), a ZILLION hijabs, Saudi and Egyptian niqabs (material is waaaay different), butterfly abayas, girl and teen prayer garments, men & boys thobes, and gloves. I have a slew of very nice bras but I don't know exactly how to handle that one.... taking pics WILL take forever... but I guess that item will get listed sometime this month.... :)
So for you ladies in the Cairo area, I will basically be having "open house" for the month of Ramadan so you can purchase direct from me.... and of course, I can ship anywhere. Please tell all the sisters you know whom might be looking for some items for Ramadan and Eid for herself, her family or gifts for the sisters!!! In with keeping everything simplistic enough, the name of the page on Facebook will be "the Barefoot Empress Boutique".......
So just in case (again) I don't make it back here, I wish all of you a very happy and healthy Ramadan.... and may Allah (SWT) accept all our prayers and duas... InshaAllah, Ameen!!! I love you all for the pleasure of Allah.... please make dua for me and my family!