tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post3451194269764408366..comments2023-04-11T09:17:25.811-04:00Comments on Thoughts from the desk of the Barefoot Empress...: Do you REALLY love your sister?Empress Anisahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-3203046627192044012009-01-05T07:36:00.000-05:002009-01-05T07:36:00.000-05:00i totally agreei know ive been in situations where...i totally agree<BR/>i know ive been in situations where i mightve done something wrong and you know<BR/>like i didnt know i was so wrong but when i wam told in a nice way<BR/>i can see the error of my ways<BR/>its better that way<BR/>but sometimes people just dont want to listen and its like pursuin the matter will only cause problems<BR/>like ive been trying to get my own cousin to wear the hijab properly for ages not the new "fashionable" way where your neck and ears and wteva are showing<BR/>and she will just be like<BR/>yeah thanks and not do anything about it <BR/>anyways<BR/>thnx 4 de lovely post sis<BR/>salaamzHijabis On Ranting Tour.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09017302125786435772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-56965990832337484972009-01-04T11:47:00.000-05:002009-01-04T11:47:00.000-05:00Wa 'alaikum assalaam Najea- exactly... I know you ...Wa 'alaikum assalaam Najea- exactly... I know you would've known what I talking about- when you have sisters who truly "have your back" you don't have to worry because they gonna correct you when you wrong- sometimes when the situation is real serious, some say it in a way that would make some shudder, but your sister only want the best for you and for you to be pleasing to Allah (SWT)which is why she does what she does... gurl, I wish you were closer to me! Well, Morocco is only about 2 hours away from Cairo, I think... lolEmpress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-28987978607618129142009-01-04T09:57:00.000-05:002009-01-04T09:57:00.000-05:00As-salaamu-alaikum Empress Anissa,Oh my - how I mi...As-salaamu-alaikum Empress Anissa,<BR/>Oh my - how I miss that "straight-up, I'm keeping it real - NY attitude". Girlfriend, I wish we had that all over the world. It just isn't like that here in North Africa, though I wish it were. People are more hospitable and polite - on the surface. But, that real LOVE you feel from having an honest realtionship with someone - I have never felt that from a single sister I have met here. Ahhh, how I miss my sisters back home. I hope you can find it when you move to Eygpt, because once you've known it, you will always want it!<BR/>Fi Iman Ilah,<BR/>NajeaFrancesca Najea Lujanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03018966998561542411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-75420713800051555552009-01-04T04:31:00.000-05:002009-01-04T04:31:00.000-05:00Sisters... there's a beautiful poem over at Umm Is...Sisters... there's a beautiful poem over at Umm Ismail's other blog I think ALL should read:<BR/><BR/>http://ummismailsamirasawda.blogspot.com/2009/01/i.html<BR/><BR/>Enough said....Empress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-66947047050574823922009-01-04T04:25:00.000-05:002009-01-04T04:25:00.000-05:00Megan- yes, I know the truth can be a HUGE pill to...Megan- yes, I know the truth can be a HUGE pill to swallow at times, I mean, I've been there in the past but when you sit and reflect, you often realize that you WERE wrong and should action to correct it. And as I said before, we should thank our sister for pointing it out to us as none of us are perfect, if not aloud to her face, than thank her in your heart... to make dua for her is even better!Empress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-59730861384730806872009-01-04T04:20:00.000-05:002009-01-04T04:20:00.000-05:00Ms Pixie- Wa alaikum assalaam, Ms. Pixie Dixie (I ...Ms Pixie- Wa alaikum assalaam, Ms. Pixie Dixie (I like the way that sounds- that's my name for u)(lol)<BR/>No need to thank me, my sista... I love you and wanted to remind everyone to be mindful of their sister, that's all. <BR/>Hey, you wanna come play in my sandbox? I got snacks.... lol<BR/>I love you, my sister, for the pleasure of Allah- and Mommie, keep it light, please!Empress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-76469497350488981742009-01-04T04:14:00.000-05:002009-01-04T04:14:00.000-05:00Umm Ismail- as usual, you hit the nail on the head...Umm Ismail- as usual, you hit the nail on the head, Momma... and people have gotten "attitudes" with me in the past and my outlook is this: I told you because I care for you and if you accept it, than so be it... if not, then that's your problem (and truly grow up). Life is too short for some the crap wanna toss at you- ignorance is rampant- leave it where you find it my old rule... and online and real life friends who take offense can go along about their business- if you direct someone to what is correct and true, and they reject, you've done your part... and from a psychological point of view, with most of them who reject truth, you will notice or can surface some serious underlying issues- after taking sooo many courses in this subject in the past, you can almost tell people's defects or what type of underlying issues they may have just by the way they write.... interesting and quite true.Empress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-61068639790679798402009-01-03T23:55:00.000-05:002009-01-03T23:55:00.000-05:00I agree. I want to be told if I'm making a mistak...I agree. I want to be told if I'm making a mistake. I wouldn't do it if I knew it was wrong, and I don't know everything. <BR/>About getting twisted, it can be hard to face that you are doing something wrong and need to change. Some people just refuse to face it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13443434334539569385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-61886625862623616452009-01-03T23:11:00.000-05:002009-01-03T23:11:00.000-05:00uMM iSMAIL: I agree sooooo deeply.Barefoot Empress...uMM iSMAIL: I agree sooooo deeply.<BR/><BR/>Barefoot Empress: As salaam alaykom. Good post. And jazzakallah kheir again for remindin me of better behaviour in the past.Pixiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08451049563167761015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-68643371673604545152009-01-03T20:31:00.000-05:002009-01-03T20:31:00.000-05:00Want for your Sister like you want for your Self. ...Want for your Sister like you want for your Self. I believe she will want the Truth.. Allahu allim<BR/><BR/>Suga Coating Issues is not the way there is a Way however to be tactful(I have yet to Learn) Some folks don't like to here they are Wrong but when comes to Deen Rather they Feel Salty at you are not. Refer everything to Quran and Sunnah,You cannot Argue with Proof no the Opinion matters except Your Rabb and His Messenger(Sallallah Alayhi wasalaam) I feel much better if some one Tells me the truth because I know you truly love me for the sake of Allah. First before your my friend your my sister in the Deen and that is more of a benefit. I have Lost many friends and I have been blocked because They either Refuse the Truth or just not the kinda friends i need.I had to learn Long ago not everyone online and or in real life will not be your friend or care to know you. Even Care for your Opinions rather based on the haqq or Otherwise. Allahu allim<BR/>UmmismailShukran UmmIsmail Webb, May Allaah azz wal Jaal Reward you. Ameenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09944361871813204360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-38086607187569944362009-01-03T18:00:00.000-05:002009-01-03T18:00:00.000-05:00Hijabee- sorry to hear that happened to you- I've ...Hijabee- sorry to hear that happened to you- I've it myself a few times... instead of them being "thankful" that you're looking out for them, they take personal offense as if the behavior is correct... your enemy will let you stray and laugh at you behind your back- your friend and a real sister will correct you and scold you if necessary when you err- to me, that's definitely a real friend... those are the kind I try to keep around meEmpress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-4861443880432597092009-01-03T17:24:00.000-05:002009-01-03T17:24:00.000-05:00Empress Anisa,Again, beautifully written! This is ...Empress Anisa,<BR/>Again, beautifully written! This is so true. I lost a sister that I thought was one of my best friends because I told her that something she was doing was wrong. That sister doesn't talk to me anymore, while we used to talk every day subhanAllah. It hurts me sometimes when I think about it, but then I just tell myself that it's maybe for the best....Hijabeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05836531883103332127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-56720054042670347562009-01-03T12:58:00.000-05:002009-01-03T12:58:00.000-05:00Aalia- yes, we need to keep our sister's best inte...Aalia- yes, we need to keep our sister's best interest at heart... thanks for stopping byEmpress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-21772760802122223262009-01-03T12:50:00.000-05:002009-01-03T12:50:00.000-05:00Masha'Allah, great reminder!! You are so true, th...Masha'Allah, great reminder!! You are so true, that's REAL LOVE!! Barak Allahu feekui for this gentle message!Desert Housewife A. (The Canadian in Jubail)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13322740753145278710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-59817360206722857592009-01-03T03:33:00.000-05:002009-01-03T03:33:00.000-05:00Modest- An old rule of mine that when I know I'm g...Modest- An old rule of mine that when I know I'm going to have a conversation with someone and I know it might "sting" them, I try to open with some other ligh hearted stuff that leads to the issue at hand... maybe if you can think of some things to talk about first that lead to the hijab or facebook itself then mention to her in the "oh, yeah.. by the way" fashion. Tactful, tasteful, full of concern and with love!<BR/><BR/>Inspired- You would not believe how soooo many sisters get "twisted" when you tell them the truth- Allah (SWT) knows your heart and if you see them err, I personally feel, it's your duty as a sister to correct them- some people just don't feel this way which is sad but true....Empress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-34927994652541477102009-01-03T00:07:00.000-05:002009-01-03T00:07:00.000-05:00Salaams sis. I agree. You owe it to the people you...Salaams sis. I agree. You owe it to the people you love to tell them the truth. Tactfully of course but the true nonetheless.Inspired Muslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01836652987875917707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-47915459127786996562009-01-02T22:37:00.000-05:002009-01-02T22:37:00.000-05:00Thank you very much Sister:]Alright, this Monday i...Thank you very much Sister:]<BR/><BR/>Alright, this Monday in Math, I'm gonna do it!<BR/><BR/>-tries to psyche myself up-<BR/><BR/>Your blog is really insightful sister ^_^ModestJusticehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06512441472291054258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-72782145089806219292009-01-02T21:57:00.000-05:002009-01-02T21:57:00.000-05:00Hajar- I totally agree with your statement, nothin...Hajar- I totally agree with your statement, nothing is more hurtful than allowing your sister to succumb to her wrongdoings- that's why I greatly appreciate my sisters here in New York. We understand and care for each other and tell each other "the way it is" when one of us is incorrect- that's the way it SHOULD be but unfortunately, in this day and time, if you DON'T tell people EXACTLY what they want to hear, you're cut off or giving the cold shoulder... pacification is not a good thingEmpress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-31844674208193087312009-01-02T21:50:00.001-05:002009-01-02T21:50:00.001-05:00Modest- sit her down and just tell her! She SHOULD...Modest- sit her down and just tell her! She SHOULD know that what she's doing right now isn't correct but approach her as if you're going to explain it to a child, ya know what I mean? Slow, tasteful and tactful... that way you don't run the risk of her getting offended but again, she KNOWS what she's doing is not the thing she should be doing, but try to break it to her nicely as if she has no clue....<BR/><BR/>Now sista, you are a good friend, MashaAllah!<BR/><BR/>And Ms. Modest... welcome to my blogEmpress Anisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04440918919478618627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-15616584212748837292009-01-02T21:50:00.000-05:002009-01-02T21:50:00.000-05:00A brilliant post. ^ I can't agree more to your wri...A brilliant post. ^ I can't agree more to your writing. At times, the truth hurts, and as much as we know it, nothing is more hurtful than allowing our sisters to succumb to her wrongdoings. The thought of someone that we care, 'slipping away' is mentally and emotionally disturbing.Hajar Alwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080749465091091832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-148305407847885067.post-79663877038533537022009-01-02T21:44:00.000-05:002009-01-02T21:44:00.000-05:00Now I need to find a way to break it to a dear sis...Now I need to find a way to break it to a dear sister of mine, that wearing hijab but posting pictures of herself without hijab on facebook in a mixed gender environment doesn't count. :[<BR/><BR/>Okay that sounded catty but I really do not know HOW to tell her! She's worn hijab waayyy longer than me but I can't just stand there and let her do that because hijab is not that.<BR/><BR/>-think.. think..-ModestJusticehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06512441472291054258noreply@blogger.com